How do we define "success" at Single Atlanta? Most people think it's by how many marriages and engagements we have each month and each year. There is no doubt that as Matchmakers we are incredibly proud of our matrimonial achievements. But some of the most rewarding "successes" are routinely found in the smaller more subtle examples of our clients dating experiences.
It's important to remember that not everyone hires a Matchmaker because they want to get married! Our clients come to us with many different dating goals...many do want marriage and longterm commited relationships but a large percentage of our client base starts out simply wanting to be a "casual dater". So if you haven't been out on a date in a really long time, just getting you out of the house on Friday night will be a success story! And it all starts with one simply casual date.
For any of you who watch Oprah, you know that she has what she calls "A-ha Moments"...at Single Atlanta we have "Aww Moments". We had and "Aww Moment" this week and a perfect example of a "success" story that wasn't an engagement or marriage. Feedback came in this week on a brand new client who had been on a date with his first match from us. Jim is a successful business executive recently re-entering the dating scene after being married many years. His first match was with Laura. Laura is attractive, intelligent and a successful professional.
The following is Jim's feedback on his date with Laura. "Laura is a nice, friendly woman. We met and had lunch together, took my car to Stone Mountain and hiked to the top of the mountain. We conversed easily and non-stop the entire time (except possibly the last 25 yards near the top of Stone Mountain when I was sucking wind). We sat at a picnic area after descending and continued talking, sharing a good bottle of red wine (discreetly). This was my first date in 27 years! I think it went well and that we enjoyed each others company."
What a great example of a wonderful casual first date! So what is the definition of casual dating? Casual dating is for the person who wants to date without the immediate intention of long term commitment. A casual dating encounter is used as an opportunity to spend time together and get to know one another better with no expectations of deeper commitment. The casual date is an experience that does sometimes include romantic components as well.
Why would someone want to be a casual dater? There are numerous reasons people want to start with casual dating encounters. A young person who is just starting out in the dating world may choose to casually date as a way to meet different personality types and to get a deeper understanding of who they are and who in turn will make a good long term partner for them. Singles who have just ended either a long term relationship or marriage aren't necessarily ready for the obligations that exclusive dating and commitment brings. They want to socialize but want to keep it light and breezy, especially in the beginning. While some of our clients begin dating with the intent to simply date casually...many of them end up learning alot about themselves in the process. That personal growth often leads to a happier more well adjusted single person. When this occurs we watch our clients move readily into relationships that are more exclusive. (Let's face it a happy person is really attractive to both sexes!)
Why hire a Matchmaker if you are only interested in casual dating?
Great ideas for a fun casual date!The idea of a casual date is to get to know each other better so choose venues and activities that will make the process easy and fun. The following are relaxed, easy and inexpensive ideas that will help you engage in conversation and learn about one another in a new way which will ultimately help you figure out whether or not there will be a second date.
And just for the record, first dates to avoid: Meeting your family, double or group dates, exotic activities like sky diving and believe it or not a movie date where communication is non-existent.
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