The Art of Dating Yourself
Let's face it, when it comes to dating we all make up excuses as to "why we're not ready yet." Whether it's because you were recently burned, want to shed a few extra pounds, or to make sure your current work project is in order, there are 1,001 different excuses we can make to psyche ourselves out from dating.
So, what's the underlying secret to those who bounce back so fast? Give yourself some attention first! When we get caught up in the daily grind of life, we tend to neglect the importance of pursuing self gratification along with trying to please others, and in forgetting this, it passively takes control of your self confidence and hinders you from moving on to something (or someone!) else who could potentially make you happy. The following are just a few tips on how to get you motivated to get back out there, and take control of your happiness:
- Before you jump back into taking another person on a date, take yourself out on one first. There's no shame in giving yourself a little "me-time" and rediscovering what makes you unique, and such a catch. Going out solo can also give you more confidence in being independent, therefore making you a much more attractive prospect!
- It's definitely a good idea to keep healthy and exercise, but don't do it with goals in mind of impressing someone else, do it for yourself! Generally the hardest thing about keeping a good fitness routine is just that: actually KEEPING it. You're more likely to succeed if you do things for yourself, rather than relying on the thoughts of others. Just think, you'll never let yourself down as long as you know you're doing your best!
- Change it up--but just a little! Sometimes the best way to feel like a brand new you, is to update your physical appearance a tad, so treat yourself to a mani/pedi, go get a fabulous new hair-do, or find some stylish but affordable new "kicks" that will be sure to make you feel confident when you decide to plunge back in to the dating world.
- The best part about taking time to "date yourself", is that you really focus on both sides of the "relationship". Many people get so caught up in the act of infatuation with their relationship, that they lose sight of what makes them personally happy. When you take the time to adopt both roles, it's easier to pinpoint what you expect and don't want from a relationship, therefore making communication closer to a walk in the park, instead of like pulling teeth.
- There are many more creative ways you can "win yourself over"; anything you'd normally expect out of your significant other, do for yourself! It won't be long before you notice progress in self confidence, and wanting to show off just how wonderful you really are--and just maybe, you'll finally be ready to lay the excuses to the side, and step back up to the plate of the dating game!